“He’s always coming at her demanding hugs and kisses. She
just stares at him, and he continues to nag, saying that he won’t give up until
she responds. He's harmless, but it bugs me. I want to say something. Do
something. Yet, I don’t want to hurt his feelings.” A mom
The clueless and relentless uncle, he wants his hugs and
kisses from all the kids and pouts, teases, and manipulates until he gets what
he wants.
He’s a big kid. And he is probably harmless. But what’s a
momma to do about him, especially a momma who’s trying to help her kids
understand that they are allowed to say, “No!”?
She has a talk with Uncle Joe.
Yep, you read that right. She needs to have a talk—a talk
right there in the middle of Christmas. No bah-humbug. No need to be
Debbie-downer. Just a simple non-threating conversation.
“Uncle Joe, we’re trying to teach Sally that she’s allowed
to have boundaries and that she’s allowed to tell people, ‘No!’” the momma says
as she gently touches his arm. “I know how much you care about her . . . and you know,” she whispers, “how dangerous the world is out there. Well, I was
wondering if you could help us out. When Sally doesn’t want to hug you, could
you just tell her that it’s okay? It would really help us teach her, and it
will help protect her from people who may want to hurt her. Thanks,” she
smiles. “I really appreciate your help.”
Non-threatening
conversations not only help us set boundaries with all the clueless Uncle Joes
and cheek-pinching Aunt Bettys, it helps us protect our kids. Embrace teachable
moments, one conversation at a time. RiseAndShineMovement.org
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